A New Kind of Love

A NEW KIND OF LOVE
When you understand righteousness, you also begin to understand the new kind of love. The greatest thing man has is human love. But human love is from the wrong source. Human love is still from the carnal nature. I can prove this to you. The nature man received when he partook of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil was just that— a nature of good and evil—and that is the nature of the serpent. He took into himself the serpent’s seed. Now we know that every seed produces after its’ own kind. Man partook of the serpentine nature. Then what happens to human love? It is the greatest thing man has in human life; but human love very easily turns to resentment, to bitterness, and to hatred. Paul reveals to us in his epistles the new kind of love. We have not only received the righteousness of God and right standing with Him, but we have also received the new kind of love. If you are a Christian,—if you have the life and the nature of God within you,—you have the new kind of love. This love, which God has deposited within you, is not subject to circumstances or conditions, and it is not a limited love. The love of God that has been shed abroad in our hearts is an unlimited and an unconditional love.

In our natural world, we have become so accustomed to a conditional love. Men and women experience this all the time in the marriage relationship. Many times, they are so “in love” —until they get married. Then, if they are not spiritual, they try to change their mates into what they want. If they are Christians, they often feel justified in attempting to make their mates more spiritual. Many have said to me, “I thought my wife or husband was more spiritual when I married them,” I will admit it can be a difficult situation when one is more spiritual in a marriage than the other, but you should never try to change your mate into what you want. Many try to change their mates by putting them under the law. “You know you shouldn’t do that and God cannot bless you as long as you do it.” Many times we try to change others by making them feel guilty so they will do what we want. Sometimes after years of trying to change the other person, they finally give up and decide that if the other person will not change, they cannot love them anymore. They have fallen out of love with their mates because they cannot make them into the person they think they should be. There is nothing spiritual about this kind of love. Many have said to me, “I know God brought us together and it was His will; but I cannot take this any longer.” This is a natural, soulish, conditional love that most of us have experienced. This is the root cause of many divorces. “If I cannot have what I want and you cannot give me what I need, then the marriage is over.” The only way a marriage should ever end is by the leading of the Lord.

There is a predominant teaching today in some circles about “DOVE MARRIAGES,” also called “Twin Flames.” I am not against such a teaching, but many have used it as an excuse to dump their mate in order to “find their dove.” Some of the more SEEMINGLY spiritual ones will counsel others to divorce their mate if they feel the mate is not their dove. People who teach this and then advise others to dump their mate to find their doves are treading in places they ought not. These people are also controllers who will manipulate every area of your life if you let them. I am not saying you should never leave a mate, but you need to make sure God is leading you and you are not being led by your natural desires or by the control of another.

Not too many have experienced an unconditional love in a marriage relationship. Unconditional love NEVER tries to change the other person. Unconditional love serves and expects nothing in return. Love just loves regardless of what the other person does or does not do. This kind of love is the only thing that can bring lasting change into a relationship. If someone knows you love them unconditionally, they cannot help but respond to that kind of love. The reason we try to change another is we do not believe God can do it without our help. Whenever you try to change another, you are usurping the Holy Spirit. This is not to say we cannot discuss with one another or give advice or make our wants known to one another, but we MUST NOT use control and
manipulation to get our own way.

This is the kind of love the new creation man or woman has. This is a righteous love which will flow from your being when you begin to experience the righteousness that has been imputed to you. You were judged at the cross. In fact, all of creation was judged at the cross, and now righteousness is imputed to you as a gift from a loving Father. You have the new kind of love in your spirit, and you cannot judge another. You can only minister to them the love and grace and forgiveness of God.

How many times have you, in your own experience, helped someone? Perhaps you have met someone on the street or you have worked with someone who had a need and you began to help this person. That is wonderful,; but as soon as the person does something to irritate you or upsets you, if you are operating in human love, immediately your love will begin to turn to resentment. The moment you say, “How could that person do that to me, after what I did for him?” it is the sign of a little seed of resentment beginning to creep up within you. How many of us have experienced it? I have. Yet, the new kind of love will simply keep loving. God’s love will pour itself out upon an individual. Then, when the individual begins to turn against you, there will be no resentment, and there will be no bitterness. There will still be the capacity for you to love the person who does you wrong. Jesus taught this—did he not?
He said, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Matt 5:44.

Matthew 5, 6, and 7 are not some things that we hopefully someday reach out and can attain to, but Matthew 5, 6, and 7 are a picture of the Christian life. The new kind of love that we have is nothing less than God’s life and nature being manifested in us..

I want to quote from the Amplified version of the Bible, I Corinthians chapter 13, because this shows you what you have within you. In verse 4, “Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, love is not boastful or vainglorious, it does not display itself hughtily. It is not conceited, arrogant and inflated with pride; it is not rude, unmannerly, and does not act unbecomingly. Love, God’s love in us, does not insist on its own rights or its ownway, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it, It pays no attention to a suffered wrong. Love does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything without weakening. Love never fails, never fadesout or becomes obsolete or comes to an end.”

Now that is the new kind of love Christians have within them. If you are regenerated, you have this kind of love. The only reason most Christians do not experience this love is because they go by sense knowledge (what they feel in the natural), and not by the reality in their spirit (he new creation man). When people do us wrong we get mad and make the wrong choices. The new kind of love makes the right kind of choices. By making the right choices, you begin to experience the stirring of God within your spirit. We experience the new kind of love by laying aside our desires and serving others.

To give you a simple illustration; we sometimes fight over the silliest things to
have our own way. A couple I know did this constantly for four years. They forever were insisting upon their own rights and their own ways about a silly little thing,. He would say, “I do not like frozen bread.” See, his wife would not allow him to leave a loaf of bread laying out on the counter. It had to go in the freezer. I am telling you the truth, they fought for almost four years over this, both wanting their own way. He did not care if he could thaw the bread out in the microwave in 30 seconds, he did not like it and he did not want it. Oh well! They laugh about it now, but these kind of silly little things keep us from experiencing the new kind of love. It caused him to be angry with his wife, and her to be upset with her husband. A simple little thing like that will stop the new kind of love from operating. Who gives a flip about frozen or unfrozen bread? Yet they openly displayed their attitudes. “Well, what do you care if the bread is on the counter? What is the big deal,” he would say. “Yes, what is the big deal?” The big deal is, if you are not willing to drop whatever it is that is offending you, it causes the new kind of love to be stopped and dammed up on the inside of you. It takes just a little resentment, just a little bit. Just a little thing like, “I just don’t understand why my wife can’t leave the bread on the counter,” can create a little bit of resentment. You cannot have resentment toward anyone and experience the new kind of love. We have to drop everything – absolutely everything, to experience this love.

Love is always willing and ready to minister to the needs of the other person. It does not matter how they respond. It is a silly little thing, but it does not matter. Love is always willing to leave the bread on the counter. Love is always willing to leave the bread in the freezer. It is not a matter of who gets their own way. In a sense, it is, because whoever gives in is the one who really wins in the long run. The more you give to the other person, regardless of whether their actions or words are fair, right, or wrong, the more you are experiencing the mind of Christ. That is what the new love is all about, gaining and increasing the deposit of life that is within our being.